A Queen is a personality, from my point of view. She doesn’t need to stand out through someone, to manifest through someone, she does it herself. She is the woman who manifests herself from within and through herself. Her deeds, her attitude, her dignity, her respect, her finesse… speak for themselves. I look around and often see a lot of appearance… and a little essence. Meanwhile, it is important to understand that without substance, without relying on something of our own – we will never be able to be a valuable woman. What are the “rules” that make you a woman worthy of appreciation, respect and personal value?
1. Build a solid foundation
It’s always important to rely on something of your own. Build a solid foundation for your personality – otherwise, everything will collapse. You can’t build a palace if you don’t have a healthy foundation – all your dreams, trials and desires will collapse. They will fall from up there. Take it step by step, quietly and safely build your desires, dreams, hopes, rules and you will see how no one and nothing will ever be able to take what is yours. Everything that you “grow” safely, with your hands, with your energy, will grow and you will be able to achieve wonderful things.
2. Stop trying to please everyone
This is an attitude that a Queen does not have. She knows she can’t and shouldn’t please everyone. This is impossible and is a great waste of energy. A wise attitude is to strive to be the best, the most competent, the proudest, happiest and most satisfied with yourself – from all points of view – and those who will resonate with you and who will love you will constitute the suite. But there is absolutely no point in bothering to thank everyone, to go out of your way to prove who you are, to justify yourself… all this attitude shows insecurity and lack of appreciation. You have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself. You live for yourself, for the fulfillment of your soul and those who want to be with you, will certainly be with you.
3. Build your own values
I often look at the lives of successful women whom I appreciate and love with all my heart… those women clearly emanate something special, they have a royal attitude and energy. And I kept wondering what this aura, this inner nobility offers them… and the answer was: the values they have. Those women who know how to harmoniously weave all aspects of their lives, without feeling frustrated, complaining, criticizing or lying on one ear – are women who have a set of values. To have personal dignity, not to compromise and accept things that their soul cannot accept, to do what they like and what their soul wants, to love with all their soul, and to focus on what it is really valuable. They are those women who take care of their family, who have the time and energy to take care of their talent and vocation, who have a smile on their face even when they have gone through a more difficult period. There are those women who love and cherish the man next to them, who invest in them, those women to whom friends come to visit, they are those women who have a good word for each person.
They don’t compare to anyone – they are unique, special and amazing. They are self-sufficient, they know how to create happiness, well-being and fulfillment in their personal life without begging from anyone. You want to be like them and next to them.
You see, for a long time I thought you had to be a star to be like that … but then I realized that any woman can be like that. And there are women among us who may not be noticed, but who really have the attitude of Queens. Maybe your mother is really a Queen, or maybe your grandmother … Of course, nowadays we have many more possibilities to express our talent, to follow our vocation and it would be a shame not to do it. But just think of the women you admire with all your heart and who inspire you in a special way. What do they have? How are they? What are they doing? I repeat, think of those values worth following.
See the next points in part II of the article.
With love,
Diana Pîrje
Editor-Rarity News, Psychologist, Author & Entrepreneur
